Baby Dies After Circumcision: What is YOUR problem?

I have so much I could say right now.. but probably won't write even a small percentage of it. This is a blog; it is not a book.  Still, I think it's vitally important for humans to understand the impact of their words on another human being and even upon themselves and their peers.


Yesterday, a woman lost her child after a circumcision surgery. The child was 7 weeks old. There was much of a story on her blog through her pregnancy, birth and the child's short life. In the end he died. Anyone who has followed my blog for the last few years clearly understands where I stand on certain issues from vaccinating to birth to circumcision. These are my personal choices.

This is where many people fail in their efforts at having strong convictions: They lack thoughtfulness and humility.  I stand by every single belief and decision I make. I also stand by your right to make your own decisions. My only hope is that you're making informed decisions.  I have a friend who birthed one child in the hospital; had her second at a birthing center and then had a c-section on the third child because it was, in fact, necessary. I have an acquaintance who had her first baby at home and her second at the hospital because her life was in danger. I have friends who circ; who vax; who don't circ or vax; who choose to wait on vaxing.

My point is that, while it is good to stand by your convictions, you should not shove them down the throats of others. I often state my view if it's an appropriate time to do so or if I am asked. I listen to my friends and those I meet. I may politely present another side for them to consider. Then I move on because in the end their choices are their choices. No one should be condemned based upon these things. Quite frankly, in the grand scheme of things.. these are minor differences which do not decide the type of human you are; the type of mother, father, son, brother, sister, daughter or neighbor a person is. And those are the things that truly matter. What type of person you are determines what type of person you are and nothing else will determine that.. Not what medical choices you make.. Not whether you eat meat or don't.. Not whether you vaccinate or don't.

This poor woman lost her child and there are those who are anti-circ leaving nasty comments and emails for her!! For those I only ask: What is wrong with you that you'd do this to a grieving mother?!!! What kind of person are YOU?  Most certainly I hope you don't call yourself a loving person or a caring person!

When you are loving, caring and kind, you set the reputation for others who believe as you do. When you are nasty, argumentative and hateful, you do the same. This poor mom contacted the Ellen Show telling how horrible the anti-circ community has been treating her. Don't you think that if this goes on Ellen's show, it will ruin the credibility of the cause itself? Who is going to listen after that?  But whatever... all that matters right now is this mom and her baby.

Do you know how fast sound travels? It travels 340 meters per second. That is the equivalent of the length of 3 football fields per second!!! This is how fast and hard the words we speak impact another's heart! If, however, you're spreading your hatred through written comments, then consider that light travels at the speed of 700 million miles an hour and that is how fast and hard your hateful words are hitting her heart! How could you do that to a person, much less a grieving person?!

There is nothing wrong with this mother or the choices she made. But if you are participating in shattering her grieving heart with words traveling at those speeds, then I would suggest that your convictions and priorities are in the wrong place.